5-Day Devotional: The Art of Attraction

Feb 3, 2026 | Sunday Messages

5 Day Devotional

Attraction can start with something you notice, but it’s sustained by something deeper God forms in you. Over the next five days, you’ll reflect on what Scripture says about love, character, and the kind of relationship strength that blesses every other part of life. Whether you’re single, dating, or married, let God reshape what you look for and how you love.

Day 1

Song of Solomon 1:5-7

The Song of Solomon opens with honest desire, real emotion, and a woman who is both confident and self-conscious. She names what others might judge in her—her sun-darkened skin and the story behind it—yet she also refuses to let shame define her worth. Healthy attraction begins when we can be truthful about ourselves without performing, hiding, or pretending.

In the sermon, the reminder was clear: attraction isn’t only physical, and love in God’s design sees beyond the surface. Solomon’s attention hints at something deeper than appearance—he notices, values, and pursues. Whether you’re single or married, ask God to grow an attraction that includes the whole person: story, character, faith, and calling. When you stop trying to be “enough” through image and start living from God-given worth, you become freer to love and be loved well.

  • Where do you feel tempted to hide or downplay your story in order to be accepted?

  • What’s one way comparison or insecurity has shaped the way you approach relationships?

  • If you’re married, what is one non-physical quality in your spouse you want to intentionally notice and affirm today?

  • If you’re single, what are three character qualities you want to be drawn to as much as outward appearance?

  • Pray honestly: ask God to heal shame and help you see yourself and others with compassion and truth.

Day 2

1 Samuel 16:7

God’s perspective confronts our default: people often judge by what is seen, but the Lord looks at the heart. Physical attraction is real, but it is a poor foundation if it becomes the main filter for choosing, pursuing, or honoring someone. The “art of attraction” is learning to value what God values—inner life, integrity, humility, and spiritual direction.

This matters because relationships don’t live in a photo; they live in ordinary days, conflict, stress, and decision-making. When your priorities match God’s, you start asking better questions: Is this person teachable? Do they handle pressure with faith? Do they own their mistakes? Heart-level substance makes love durable, and it also guards singles from settling and spouses from drifting into superficial patterns.

  • What signals do you usually use to evaluate someone quickly, and how might they be misleading?

  • Name one heart-quality you admire in someone you respect. How could you cultivate that quality in yourself?

  • If you’re dating or hoping to date, what boundaries could help you slow down and pay attention to character?

  • If you’re married, where have you unintentionally prioritized external things over inner health in your relationship?

  • Ask God to align your desires with His values and to increase your discernment in relationships.

Day 3

Proverbs 31:30

Scripture is blunt: charm can be deceptive and beauty can fade, but reverence for the Lord has lasting weight. Attraction that’s built mainly on novelty, chemistry, or image will eventually demand more and more to stay alive. Attraction rooted in faith grows differently—it deepens as trust grows, as character is proven, and as two people pursue God together.

The sermon emphasized that strong marriages strengthen everything else in life. One reason is that God-centered love stabilizes the home from the inside out. If you’re single, this proverb helps you filter for what endures. If you’re married, it invites you to keep building the kind of life that makes love last: worship, repentance, service, and shared spiritual direction. The most compelling “beauty” is a life that consistently turns toward God.

  • What is one “charm” (a surface-level draw) that you’ve overvalued in the past?

  • How would your dating or marriage choices change if “fearing the Lord” became your top priority?

  • What’s one spiritual habit you could practice consistently that would strengthen your love and relationships?

  • If you’re married, what is one way you can make your home more centered on Christ this week?

  • Write a short prayer asking God to purify your desires and make your life attractive in ways that last.

Day 4

Ephesians 5:1-2

Paul describes love not as a feeling to chase but as a way of life to practice: walk in love, patterned after Christ’s self-giving. This reframes attraction: the most powerful kind of pull isn’t manipulation, flirting, or image management—it’s the steady gravity of sacrificial love. When someone consistently chooses your good, honors your dignity, and reflects Jesus, that creates trust and deepens affection.

This also challenges the “no elbowing” reminder from the sermon: you can’t change someone else, but you can choose to become a person who loves like Christ. In marriage, that means initiating kindness, serving without keeping score, and refusing contempt. In singleness, it means practicing Christlike love now—toward friends, family, and the church—so that if romance comes, you bring maturity rather than neediness.

  • Where do you confuse love with intensity, attention, or chemistry rather than Christlike action?

  • What is one practical way you can “walk in love” today in your closest relationship?

  • If you’re married, what’s one habit you could change that would make your spouse feel more seen and safe?

  • If you’re single, how can you practice sacrificial love now without using romance as your main source of worth?

  • Confess any selfish patterns to God and ask for the strength to love with consistency, not just emotion.

Day 5

2 Corinthians 5:17

The gospel brings real hope into real relationships: in Christ, new creation is possible. That means your past doesn’t have to be your pattern, and your current struggles don’t have to be your future. God can renew desires, heal wounds, break cycles, and teach you how to love in healthier ways than you’ve ever seen modeled.

The sermon emphasized that no matter how bad things are, Jesus is able to make all things new. This is where the devotional journey lands: attraction shaped by God leads to transformation, not just information. Whether you’re rebuilding trust, learning to communicate, preparing for a future relationship, or trying to reignite love in marriage, begin with surrender. Newness starts when you stop managing outcomes and invite Jesus to reshape your heart and your habits.

  • What is one area of your relational life where you most need Jesus to make things new?

  • What old pattern (avoidance, defensiveness, lust, control, insecurity) do you want God to replace with something healthier?

  • Who is one trusted person (pastor, counselor, mentor, mature friend) you could invite into your growth this month?

  • What is one concrete step you will take this week to pursue renewal—an apology, a conversation, a boundary, or a prayer rhythm?

  • Pray specifically for renewal in your heart first, then for renewal in your relationships.